btw, I had an insight the other day about misery versus despair. I was despairing (trying so hard to write a short story by the evening critique group, exhausted from having been up since 4:30 a.m., no time or opportunity for a nap, disgusted with myself for having wasted time and for having gotten myself sleep-deprived, and back to the trying to write a short story) - I was indeed despairing.
And yet, I realized, I was not miserable! Just despairing!
Who knew these things were so very different and separable?!